Life, Weddings

From Bride to (step)Mother of the Bride

When becoming a step-mother I day dreamed of special days like birthdays, graduations, and weddings. You can never daydream enough to prepare for reality! When my oldest step daughter announced she was going to be married I was so excited to help her start planning. In the beginning I held myself back a bit because I was so worried about stepping on toes or offending, I only offered advice or guidance when asked directly. As the wedding drew closer the more involved I became. I helped with finding the venue, figure out the catering and the menu, helped plan the rehearsal dinner, helped with planning and executing the centerpieces, decor, and the setup, hiring a florist and ordering the flowers, finding equipment rentals, and I went to meetings with vendors. I became her personal wedding planner.

I learned a lot about many vendors of my area. I also recognized that the wedding scene in Ridgecrest, CA was not nearly as connected and well organized as it had been in Colorado Springs, CO where I had planned my own wedding a couple of years before. Repeatedly I was told by vendors (even bank tellers!) that I should be a wedding planner and that there were none currently in town. On the day of my step daughter’s wedding I had in-laws and wedding guests tell me I should be a wedding planner. The writing was on the wall!

There were many snags leading up to and on the day of the wedding, as there are with any wedding! Miscommunication, multiple disappearing vendors, last minute paper work that suddenly appeared and needed to be completed within 24 hours. I was there to help manage and solve every crisis that arose. My husband, my youngest step daughter, my in-laws, and I pulled together to give Lauren and Justin a memorable wedding day that they will cherish forever.

The couple wanted to have a laid back semi-casual wedding and reception with a rustic boho feel. They both wanted their reception to feel like a party!

The wedding ceremony took place at Solar Park on the China Lake Naval Base. The couple exchanged vows under a cedar arbor nestled in the trees of the park. Simple white chairs lined the aisle leading up to the arbor. The ceremony was officiated by the brides Aunt, Amy Trulock, who had received a licence as a Deputy Commissioner of Civil Marriage.

The reception was held after the ceremony at the nearly “infamous” Barefoot Bar on the China Lake Navel Base.

Dinner was kept simple; a delicious buffet from Casa Corona, a local Mexican restaurant. Lemonade and iced tea were served with dinner, a cash bar was also available.

The wedding cake was a very special creation near and dear to the couple. A custom tiered cake fashioned after their favorite League of Legends characters, an on-line game they both play and love.

There was a photo booth available with props and a Fujifilm Instax Mini instant camera to serve as the guest book.

When all was said and done the couple loved their wedding day, they both said it was what they had wanted!

The following day I made sure to give my parents a call to thank them for helping with my own wedding, because being a (step)Mother of the Bride was A LOT harder than being the bride!

4 thoughts on “From Bride to (step)Mother of the Bride

  1. Lovely! The attention to detail is quietly present and beautiful. A wedding planner you are Lindsey and couples/families/guests would all have a memorable and blessed experience; from top to bottom!

    1. Thank you! I had a lot of fun drawing it free hand and “Mr. Trulove” helped with the digital portion. I love having a very special to me signature, I’m so glad you like it!

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